A Man In a Boy's Pajamas

One thing I've noticed about being a married is that just because your married, doesn't make you a fully mature man. Now, I know, when we get married we are supposed to be all grown up and ready to start life as an adult part of society. We start having couples over for game nights, maybe start bowling more and open Roth IRA accounts for retirement.

As men, we start to where the polo shirts with no prints on them, some Dockers or khakis, and a par of plain black or brown shoes. When we first get married, we might get rid of some childish things like shot glasses or video games. Maybe put away a couple posters that are made to make men feel like men, such as black and white posters of the rat pack, James Dean, maybe a Scarface, and Mohammed Ali standing over someone he just knocked out.

Then as a man you start to plan your life out (with you're wife), like what type of career to really pursue or where to live long term. All very important and very needed for any man. Normally we just do what works and we know and let the chips fall as they may.

Even after all of this "growing up", we still feel at times, as little boys ready to go climb something that looks fun, beat the new video game that just came out, build a really sweet tree fort, learn kung fu just like Bruce Lee or Jet Lee (both very cool by the way), or learn to play the guitar because you really do have what it takes to be in a band.

As married or "adult" men, we are really good at playing the part. With our wife we can play that romantic husband or the good friend with good conversational skills, but sometimes we can’t contain it. It being, the inner child that if you held back too long, comes bursting out of us and normally onto our spouse. This is normally comes in the way of pestering, bugging, or teasing. Touching your wife with your feet, while both on the couch together. You guys know what I mean.

I come to the conclusion that this is completely normal and probably not going to change. As men we will always be boys, boys trying to make it in an adult world. We are men in boy’s pajamas.